Comments on: How not to have an affair http://www.cackaloo.com/2009/06/21/how-not-to-have-an-affair/ "We're all naked underneath" Tue, 09 Mar 2010 22:44:05 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Jo http://www.cackaloo.com/2009/06/21/how-not-to-have-an-affair/#comment-5280 Jo Mon, 29 Jun 2009 11:12:03 +0000 http://www.cackaloo.com/?p=1334#comment-5280 Hmm. no one ever asked me. But I'm pretty sure if they did, the horror of showing someone new my child-ravaged body for the first time since I was 17 would no doubt keep me on the straight and narrow. Plus, my father had a real, long term affair and it was shit for everyone, so I don't feel like it's a good thing to do. One night stands though, I don't know. I might think it was ok for himself to have an exeem boosting night of passion, and learn some new moves? Hmm. no one ever asked me. But I’m pretty sure if they did, the horror of showing someone new my child-ravaged body for the first time since I was 17 would no doubt keep me on the straight and narrow.

Plus, my father had a real, long term affair and it was shit for everyone, so I don’t feel like it’s a good thing to do.

One night stands though, I don’t know. I might think it was ok for himself to have an exeem boosting night of passion, and learn some new moves?

]]> By: K8 http://www.cackaloo.com/2009/06/21/how-not-to-have-an-affair/#comment-5279 K8 Wed, 24 Jun 2009 20:45:24 +0000 http://www.cackaloo.com/?p=1334#comment-5279 That pretty much hits the nail on the head!! Documentaries about smelly armpit desire don't help much though. That pretty much hits the nail on the head!! Documentaries about smelly armpit desire don’t help much though.

]]> By: Holemaster http://www.cackaloo.com/2009/06/21/how-not-to-have-an-affair/#comment-5278 Holemaster Tue, 23 Jun 2009 22:56:48 +0000 http://www.cackaloo.com/?p=1334#comment-5278 Maybe it's like this. The gate was open but you never went outside. Now that the gate is closed, you wonder. Maybe it’s like this. The gate was open but you never went outside. Now that the gate is closed, you wonder.

]]> By: K8 http://www.cackaloo.com/2009/06/21/how-not-to-have-an-affair/#comment-5277 K8 Tue, 23 Jun 2009 20:29:42 +0000 http://www.cackaloo.com/?p=1334#comment-5277 Jefferson; You personally don't need to be married for anyone to know that you're a true faithful, a bloke of concrete morals. Unfortunately there aren't many of yiz knocking around, especially not around these parts. Then again... even those with concrete morals could potentially fall for the wrong person. Is this what's happening? Unstranger; I'm not worthy!!! This post is curiosity borne of sordid tales from the taxi rank, a baby toe dipped in the water searching for anonymous confessions. You people are too wise by far :) As for Bray, I believe it was a beautiful place, once. Baino; And what would the world be like without perves? Some secretly adore them, I know that. Love rusts though, I'm wondering if pheromones are a powerful solvent? I don't know, that's got to be a good sign I guess! Brighid; That's a different story I guess... to consciously decide that the best is over. That takes a lot of thinking and a hell of a lot of guts. Your sort of honesty is much appreciated. Granny; Through thick and thin. And fryingpans. That's what it's all about. Holemaster; I think it's that 'true love' fairytale that screws things up, and the fact that the grass could potentially be greener. It's all a big mindfuck. Die, Cinderella, die. Jefferson; You personally don’t need to be married for anyone to know that you’re a true faithful, a bloke of concrete morals. Unfortunately there aren’t many of yiz knocking around, especially not around these parts. Then again… even those with concrete morals could potentially fall for the wrong person. Is this what’s happening?

Unstranger; I’m not worthy!!! This post is curiosity borne of sordid tales from the taxi rank, a baby toe dipped in the water searching for anonymous confessions. You people are too wise by far :) As for Bray, I believe it was a beautiful place, once.

Baino; And what would the world be like without perves? Some secretly adore them, I know that. Love rusts though, I’m wondering if pheromones are a powerful solvent? I don’t know, that’s got to be a good sign I guess!

Brighid; That’s a different story I guess… to consciously decide that the best is over. That takes a lot of thinking and a hell of a lot of guts. Your sort of honesty is much appreciated.

Granny; Through thick and thin. And fryingpans. That’s what it’s all about.

Holemaster; I think it’s that ‘true love’ fairytale that screws things up, and the fact that the grass could potentially be greener. It’s all a big mindfuck. Die, Cinderella, die.

]]> By: Holemaster http://www.cackaloo.com/2009/06/21/how-not-to-have-an-affair/#comment-5276 Holemaster Mon, 22 Jun 2009 16:53:49 +0000 http://www.cackaloo.com/?p=1334#comment-5276 I'm not and have not been married so I have no useful advice. But I would imagine that after many happy years of faithful marriage, it must be a great feeling to know that you have both only been with each other all that time. I don't think I'd the balls for affair. I’m not and have not been married so I have no useful advice. But I would imagine that after many happy years of faithful marriage, it must be a great feeling to know that you have both only been with each other all that time. I don’t think I’d the balls for affair.

]]> By: Granny http://www.cackaloo.com/2009/06/21/how-not-to-have-an-affair/#comment-5275 Granny Mon, 22 Jun 2009 12:23:38 +0000 http://www.cackaloo.com/?p=1334#comment-5275 As usual you have left me thinking! So my conclusion is pretty much akin to xbox. It is all down to respect. After almost 35 years on our some times very rocky,we have reached that peaceful stage of marriage where we can read one anothers mind. It was well worth the ride! As usual you have left me thinking! So my conclusion is pretty much akin to xbox. It is all down to respect. After almost 35 years on our some times very rocky,we have reached that peaceful stage of marriage where we can read one anothers mind. It was well worth the ride!

]]> By: Brighid http://www.cackaloo.com/2009/06/21/how-not-to-have-an-affair/#comment-5274 Brighid Mon, 22 Jun 2009 09:27:06 +0000 http://www.cackaloo.com/?p=1334#comment-5274 forty years of working hard at the one marriage, and I'm thinking it's time to retire. forty years of working hard at the one marriage, and I’m thinking it’s time to retire.

]]> By: Baino http://www.cackaloo.com/2009/06/21/how-not-to-have-an-affair/#comment-5273 Baino Mon, 22 Jun 2009 09:16:56 +0000 http://www.cackaloo.com/?p=1334#comment-5273 What they said . . just don't. It's about commitment (which is why you got married in the first place), respect, communication, understanding and above all love . . if you're not in love . .you won't hold it together. It's hard and the rope freys sometimes but over the long haul it's all worth it. Marriage, like friendship is hard work sometimes but then a 'cat can look at a king' so there's no harm in the odd perve! What they said . . just don’t. It’s about commitment (which is why you got married in the first place), respect, communication, understanding and above all love . . if you’re not in love . .you won’t hold it together. It’s hard and the rope freys sometimes but over the long haul it’s all worth it. Marriage, like friendship is hard work sometimes but then a ‘cat can look at a king’ so there’s no harm in the odd perve!

]]> By: unstranger http://www.cackaloo.com/2009/06/21/how-not-to-have-an-affair/#comment-5272 unstranger Mon, 22 Jun 2009 01:28:52 +0000 http://www.cackaloo.com/?p=1334#comment-5272 p.s. The term 'Affair': mere spin, a real cosy cover-up. p.s. The term ‘Affair’: mere spin, a real cosy cover-up.

]]> By: unstranger http://www.cackaloo.com/2009/06/21/how-not-to-have-an-affair/#comment-5271 unstranger Mon, 22 Jun 2009 01:25:48 +0000 http://www.cackaloo.com/?p=1334#comment-5271 K8, your writing is without exception; exceptional! Your analogy which places the heroes at the cliff edge, one supporting the other is deep. Profound even, given the length of time that that cliff-edge is wont to survive. To accede to the call of the wild, where nature demands the surrender of the individual so that procreation can take place, is in the marriage set up; a disastrous option. To take your analogy one step further, should the rope fail and the hero fall, the fall is really not so far. It's actually a comfortable little drop well within the drop-zone allowed to heroes; normally. There is however a slight reckoning which some heroes deal with but; others can't. That is the gooey sticky tar-like slime that the hero lands in once the rope has failed. It stains and it roils and no excuses are ever enough. Marriage K8, as you so succinctly point out; is about being faulty; wisdom beyond your years me thinks! No worries you. As for the slappers, perhaps I should do a weekend in Bray! After all, it's where my parents went for their feckin' honeymoon! I kid you not. K8, your writing is without exception; exceptional!

Your analogy which places the heroes at the cliff edge, one supporting the other is deep. Profound even, given the length of time that that cliff-edge is wont to survive.

To accede to the call of the wild, where nature demands the surrender of the individual so that procreation can take place, is in the marriage set up; a disastrous option.

To take your analogy one step further, should the rope fail and the hero fall, the fall is really not so far. It’s actually a comfortable little drop well within the drop-zone allowed to heroes; normally.

There is however a slight reckoning which some heroes deal with but; others can’t.

That is the gooey sticky tar-like slime that the hero lands in once the rope has failed.

It stains and it roils and no excuses are ever enough.

Marriage K8, as you so succinctly point out; is about being faulty; wisdom beyond your years me thinks!

No worries you.

As for the slappers, perhaps I should do a weekend in Bray!
After all, it’s where my parents went for their feckin’ honeymoon!

I kid you not.

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